[Spoiler alert: It’s more important than you think]. What if we were OK with what we already have? We assume that people who are truly contented are better than we are, that they’re some kind of sages or gurus. We also assume — unconsciously — that it’s not OK to be OK with what we … More On pleasure
Doing anything creative declares “I am” to the universe. It helps you discover who you are. It enables you to create another aspect of who you are. It shares something of yourself with the world around you. It can be a way to bond with friends. One creative act is to create a space where … More Make a space where it can happen: Being creative
A couple days ago, right when I needed it, Gabrielle Bernstein’s blog entry was delivered to me with her nifty approach to shifting an unpleasant mood immediately. I’ve been playing with it ever since. In her book Super Attractor: Methods for Manifesting a Life Beyond Your Wildest Dreams (Hay House 2019), Bernstein calls her approach … More How to use Gabrielle Bernstein’s “Choose again method” to feel better NOW
Having gotten some discouraging news yesterday, the kind it takes awhile to process, I wanted to do something different from my historical habit of freaking out and feeling helpless. I did pretty well. In fact, I think I’ve begun to learn how to meditate. First, I went to the gym and lifted weights, because I’m … More How I meditate
Dr. Joe Dispenza’s guided open-focus meditations changed my life. When I was stressed out of my mind, his guided meditations got me through. Open focus meditation is different from the traditional progressive relaxation visualization, so if you haven’t tried it, try one of his meditations. To start using Dr. Joe Dispenza’s meditations, I have two … More My favorite meditation scripts and guided meditations
then, listen to the answers you get For decades, I’ve believed in the existence of a larger, mysterious, big-picture benevolent Entity who is the pattern for goodness, who encourages us to become our most perfect selves, who loves to see us love each other, the Talmudic angel who whispers to every blade of grass, “Grow!” … More Pray
Just because you feel unsure and lost, or even completely hopeless and self-loathing, while you’re doing something, doesn’t cancel out that You Are Doing The Thing, and possibly doing it very well. Freaking out is part of the process. And it won’t last forever. When you’re freaking out because you notice you’re having a terrifying … More Don’t freak out because you’re freaking out. It’s just part of your process
An altar is a tool. Why not use it? Here’s a strength-giving thing you can do for yourself that costs nothing, takes ten minutes or less, and gives you a hit of dopamine, plus, it’s a cool home-decor item, too: Building an altar. What counts as an altar? I use a tiny altar to remind … More How to build a tabletop altar, and why you’d want to
If you’re reading this piece, you’re a conscientious, competent, even hyper-competent, person, but you don’t spend much time thinking about what you’re doing right or how well you do what you do. Nope. Why spend time appreciating what a good job you did just now? You’re too busy thinking of ways to improve your already … More Why You Haven’t Already Lifted Yourself and Your Morose Mood Up By Your Bootstraps
In this post, I’ll show you how I designed a scoring rubric that reflects my values and makes sense to me. We judge ourselves, and we judge other people, mostly instantaneously and unconsciously. That’s OK. It’s probably wired into our brains as a survival tool. We might as well admit we judge and USE it … More Give Yourself Credit: Keep score. Everything Counts.
Think UP! 